How does dating in the UK differ from dating in the US and other countries? Caroline Kent outlines the significant cultural differences
8:13AM BST 04 Jul 2014
Everyone seems to feast Independence Day, these days. On the back of every pub toilet door (and believe me, I spend a lot of time in pub toilets) there seems to be a flyer for their 4th of July piss-up. Whether a sign of creeping cultural imperialism or just an excuse to get bladdered on Bud Light and eat undercooked hotdogs, I’m unassured. However, it’s made me think about the differences inbetween us and our pals across the pond.
The American studs I’ve dated were (coincidentally) all from DC. And overall, I found them swaggering, careerist, and utterly horrified of commitment. This undoubtedly says more about the type of boys I go for than it does about North American blokes as a entire. But I cannot tell you how often I hear the same from British women. Hollywood would have us believe that they are romantic, misunderstood and – even if we leave them for another man – likely to budge to Tennessee and build us a house on a lake with blue shutters and await our come back.
But how do daters in the UK actually differ from daters in the US? Global data from online dating site AYI.com has identified some of the major contradictions. Some are subtle, like how women in the US are half an inch taller on average, but others are more significant. We British may pride ourselves on our GSOH, but studs in the US claim to care more about a sense of humour (50% of AYI users calling it “very significant”, versus 33% in the UK). American fellows also place more emphasis on intelligence.
British chaps would show up to be more old fashioned than their US equivalents, the data exposes. Evidently UK guys are more likely to stick to traditional gender roles and contact a female very first, whereas in the US anything goes. American daters confess to being more romantic, but AYI.com also found that they care more about money than UK daters. Brits say they are likely to be turned off by high salaries, finding them “,crude”,.
So what does the UK dating scene have going for it, according to this research? It seems to me that we’re a lot more down-to-earth, for a embark. UK daters want to loosen at home on a Saturday night, and are more willing to meet in person right away than US daters, which suggests we trust our instincts and don’t like to waste too much time with all that online back-and-forth. We’re also more willing to date outside our preferred assets type.
UK females would choose a brief coffee date for the very first meeting, whereas American women want to be “,taken out to a nice dinner”, for the very first date. And what to eat on that initial encounter? American women report eating “healthy”, while women in the UK eat “whatever” they please.
Who pays? An international survey from Match.com discovered that UK women take the gold medal for splitting the bill 50/50, with a majority (52%) reporting that they suggested to pick up the tab on alternating dates —, far more often than women in other countries. Least likely to pay worldwide? French women.
Of course, courtship rituals differ across the world, in China the women don’t so much flirt as “,Sajiao”, (“extract coquettishness”) which signals a man should treat her like a princess if he is hoping to date her. Singles in Qatar tend to get introduced to a prospective fucking partner over a very civilised tea with their parents, and whilst in the UK we usually have numerous fucking partners before lodging down, in Qatar it’s also done the other way around, and no one bats an eyelid at polygamy.
Flirting is Brazil’s national sport, and diffidence is a total turn off, right from your teenage years. Whereas Russians are fairly old fashioned, studs deploy “,Noozhy”, a form of woo-ing which translates as palm smooching, handbag carrying, and flower providing.
British studs get a lot of flack for their dating habits, but I think their laid-back style makes them (perhaps unwittingly) amongst the best seducers in the world. Give me the bumbling British bloke any time. I choose a love story about a stupid, spontaneous meeting, a burned dinner, or a few-drinks-too-many confession of love over the incessant game-playing you’ll find elsewhere. You may not be ideal, British guys, but that’s exactly why we like you.
Caroline Kent »,
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