Online relationship? Only tips and advice from an experienced will do

How do you make a success of an online relationship? Advice is at forearm!

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If you’re looking for online relationship advice, I’m going to assume that you’re presently dating someone online. And that you’re in love and hoping for a long-term relationship, but that you’re fighting right now.

So, I hope to help you here with advice on how to deal with the most common problems with cyber dating and online relationships. And, of course, I’ll give you some healthy relationship tips too.

Online relationships can begin after meeting someone in forums, game-rooms, dating or social media sites. Your intentions at the commence of your relationship matter, so – how and why did you meet? Perhaps.

  1. You have a common interest, you became friends and then fell in love
  2. You were looking for an online relationship with the hope of finding a long-term playmate
  3. You set out to get into an online relationship whilst already having a committed close duo ‘in person’ relationship. ,In this case – hop over to my page on surviving infidelity.

(The search engine could have misinterpreted your search. If so, Click Here to connect with an online, licensed counsellor ,for online advice on your relationship.

Can an online relationship be blessed and fulfilling?

There’s no reason why not! Our lives become more and more online as technology proceeds to advance. We can now fulfill so many of our needs (and wants) on the internet. And if it’s something that appeals to you, that includes finding a fucking partner – and having a relationship – too.

When it comes to the ins and outs of your relationship, it will of course be different if it takes place solely online. For one thing, you won’t have the regular physical presence or contact that you would with a fucking partner who you met up with often, or who you lived with. But there are slew of opportunities to build strong emotional connections. And, of course, slew of options to explore if you want to include physical closeness in the relationship too.

But, as with any relationship, there can be difficulties and upsets along the way.

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Ten Common problems with online and long distance relationships

As your relationship progresses, here are the kinds of thoughts and questions you may be troubled by. I’ll expand on each point with my online relationship advice further down:

  1. You’re beginning to be suspicious and unassured if you can indeed trust this man or woman
  2. You’re wondering if long distance online relationships can ever work
  3. You’re deeply in love with your online playmate, but there’s no chance you’ll ever meet in real life
  4. You’re in love, but your online playmate is becoming increasingly distant
  5. You were in love, but now you don’t know how to end this relationship
  6. You’re beginning to wonder if this is truly a mutual loving relationship, or if it was just in your imagination
  7. You’re being accused of being obsessed or infatuated
  8. You’re dating online, but are wondering if you’re truly compatible
  9. You’d like to think it’s a platonic relationship, but deep down you know you’re truly having an affair
  10. You’ve been dishonest and now feel trapped by your own lies

Read on for online relationship advice, guidance and tips on each point.

1.  ,Not sure you can trust your online friend or playmate?

What you’re being told doesn’t ‘add-up’? You keep having some niggling doubts? Trust your intuition! ,Read my articles on being catfished, ,online dating scams ,and infidelity.

Two. , Can long distance online relationships ever work?

It doesn’t indeed matter if other people can make their online relationship work. You need to know if yours can work long-term.

So, you’ve fallen in love, and you’re totally absorbed by your relationship. Naturally you’re wondering if dating long distance can work out and lead to marriage.

Here’s my take on it.

As human beings, we’re born with certain essential emotional needs. These have to be met in balance for us to become or remain mentally and emotionally (and physically!) healthy.

These all-natural needs include:

  • in-person friendships, joy and laughter
  • in-person proximity with close physical and/or sexual contact
  • being part of a broader community with people who can be there for you in person when you’re in need of practical and emotional support, and to share the joys of your achievements.

Of course, you can have people around online who can suggest all kinds of support. But they can’t put their arm around you in such a way that you can feel their physical warmth.

In addition, an in-person close duo relationship involves closeness that includes.

  • witnessing and observing someone in their everyday life, away from any screens
  • hearing them speak – not through a speaker
  • the capability to touch and hold them

So, online relationships can absolutely work, but if you’re having a long-distance relationship, read on for my online relationship advice.

Experienced advice on your online relationship

Your online long-distance relationship may suggest you bundles of one of the most significant emotional needs: the need to give and receive attention. That’s provocative for sure! But can this need be met in balance when dating long distance?

I’m afraid, if I’m being fair, I don’t think so!

The provocative nature of having all of your attention needs met makes it all too effortless for you to overlook the fact that the relationship may not have a long-term future.

Here’s what may scupper your chances:

7 Point reality check

  1. You both live too far away to meet up often enough to build a viable relationship ,
  2. There isn’t enough time in your schedule to make it possible to meet
  3. You don’t have the means to travel
  4. You may not want to permanently leave behind your family, friends, community, work, etc
  5. You may not want to carry part of the responsibility of requiring your playmate to leave everything behind
  6. You’ve concluded that you’re not compatible
  7. You’re already in a committed relationship

Ultimately, when you’re looking for a long-term relationship, it’s because you want to meet someone you could imagine spending the rest of your life with. And I’m afraid to say that there most likely will come a point where one or other of you feels frustrated at the lack of in-person time you can spend together. ,

But this doesn’t mean you have to end your online relationship right now! There’s slew to be gained from it – as long as you have realistic expectations about its longevity, and what you truly want from the relationship. Be fair with yourself, and make sure you’re choosing the right path for you, whatever you determine.

Trio. , Five Tips and online relationship advice for when you’re unlikely to meet

My advice most likely won’t come as a surprise and you may not like it!

Very first off, however, I have no doubt you’ll have gained much with this relationship, learnt a ton and had your attention needs met. It’s therefore a indeed valuable practice regardless of what happens next.

However, I hope you see the value in my lovingly spelling out my online relationship advice:

  1. All the while you’re investing in dating long-distance, you’re diminishing your chances of meeting someone closer to home
  2. A long distance online relationship makes it hard for you to meet all, or a good majority, of your inborn emotional needs (see above)
  3. You’re spending valuable resources – your time, energy and maybe money – with a limited come back
  4. Don’t idiot yourself by thinking you could remain friends after it completes, when you’re deeply in love. You would so ache yourself and diminish your chances of getting over it
  5. Don’t draw out the ending – be plucky and bold – your future happiness is at stake

If you don’t mind the thought of never meeting your other half in real life, as long as the other person feels the same, there’s no harm in that. (Be aware, tho’, that if you’re having an affair, you are harming your primary relationship.) Just be sure to help yourself meet all of your essential emotional needs in balance in different ways – and don’t expect your online relationship to give you everything you need.

Four. , 8 Potential reasons why your fucking partner is becoming distant

Here are some potential reasons from my perspective. Click on the links for more online relationship advice to deal with your particular situation:

  1. Perhaps you’ve been arguing lately and you’re incapable to ,resolve your differences?
  2. Maybe one of you has been or is ,abusive
  3. One of you has been using any of the communication spoilers on this page
  4. Maybe your online playmate perceives you as too ‘high maintenance’ – too requiring of his or her attention. See my article on how to ‘make’ your playmate love you.
  5. Or, you’re in a long distance relationship with no hope ever of getting married (see above)
  6. Perhaps he or she has met someone closer to home
  7. Or maybe they have several online relationships and someone else has become more significant than you
  8. Maybe they’re simply not getting out of the relationship what they were looking for – don’t take it personally

Whatever’s happened, if you’re experiencing any of the above, your relationship is likely to end – but your fucking partner may find it difficult to be direct. That could be because they fear your reaction, lack the confidence or they just don’t know how to do it. No excuse, I know, but the only control you can exercise over this is by ending the relationship yourself.

Five.  ,How do you end an online relationship?

I have a number of articles on ending relationships – Click Here and scroll down to find articles with tips, strategies and advice on how to end a relationship.

6. Is it a truly loving relationship or could you be fooling yourself?

Even if you’re not actually being catfished, here’s what your online fucking partner may not have told you about (without judgement!):

Real age, figure modifications, unemployment, debts, abject poverty or excellent wealth, long-term or terminal illness, a never talked about spouse or fucking partner, children that weren’t mentioned, etc. ,

None of these are inherently ‘wrong’ of course. The lies are tho’.

The problem is that when you’re in love, you’re wearing rose-tinted glasses. You have a vested interest in being able to believe what you’re told: you may want it all to be true. You can be – I’m very sorry to say – an effortless target, in particular when you have little practice in online dating relationships. And we haven’t even talked about online scams with disastrous financial consequences for the victims.

My advice for an online relationship is to talk it over with a good friend who can spot when you’re ‘projecting’ onto the other person what you indeed want.

In other words, when you’re assuming he or she has certain – for you, personally desirable – characteristics, beliefs and attitudes.

Talk it over with someone you trust

My advice for an online relationship is to talk it over with a good friend who can spot when you’re ‘projecting’ onto the other person what you truly want. In other words, when you’re assuming he or she has certain – for you, personally desirable – characteristics, beliefs and attitudes.

Even better: connect with an online, licensed counsellor! See my page on online relationship advice.

7.  ,Is it love or an infatuation and obsession?

Well, that’s a bit mean! It’s totally normal to, at least in the initial stages, be totally infatuated and obsessed by the object of your affection. But.

  • Have you stopped doing much of what you usually do in terms of entertaining yourself with hobbies, studies and interests in ‘real’ life?
  • Are you neglecting your in-person relationships? You may do this too when you’ve fallen in love with someone who is physically nearby, but if all is well you’re also likely to meet fresh people. Not so with a cyber relationship.
  • Are you stalking the other person? Are you hacking into their accounts? Or are you being stalked?
  • This is where the real danger lies. Have a look at my article on the signs of an abusive relationship.

If the relationship’s in its early stages, it’s natural if it’s taking up much of your time and attention. Step by step, you’ll concentrate outwards again and devote time and energy to other interests and people alongside the relationship.

But, if you begin to concentrate only on the relationship to the exclusion of everything else in your life, you do need to take a step back. Ask yourself what’s driving your obsession – what are you getting out of it? And should you be meeting that need some other way?

8. How do you know if you’re truly compatible when dating online

You won’t know, I’m sorry to say, ,if you do not have sufficient opportunities to meet – elementary. Consider getting my relationship compatibility test to become clear of what information you might want to get from your potential long-term fucking partner.

9. Is it a friendship, a platonic relationship or an affair

Only you know the response!

It can be so effortless to originally feel comfy with the idea that you’re developing a ‘special friendship’. Whilst that may indeed be the case, at least primarily, there comes a point at which you overstep the boundary and you are in fact cheating on your playmate.

Ten Signs your online relationship is very unlikely ‘just’ a friendship

  1. Are you using a secret email account?
  2. Are you using a different app than you normally would with your fucking partner?
  3. If your fucking partner was to ask, would you showcase them what you’re writing?
  4. Have you stopped leaving your phone where your playmate could see it?
  5. Have you switched the security code on your phone?
  6. Are you using different passwords than you and your fucking partner normally use (if indeed you share passwords)?
  7. Do you talk about your fucking partner in derogatory terms? (Yes, I know this isn’t necessarily a sign, but look at it in context. )
  8. Would you feel embarrassed if your children came across your conversations with this ‘friend’?
  9. Have you been ‘sexting’ or had cybersex? Does your spouse or playmate find you ‘turned on’ when they might not normally expect to?
  10. Have you been keeping your phone with you, rather than leaving it on the table?

Don’t be hard on yourself – it can be effortless to fall into that trap, particularly when your primary relationship is not as satisfying as it used to be. You’ll have to take act and address it harsh. Have a look at my page on ,Surviving Infidelity.

Ten. You have lied to your online mate

Whatever the reason you lied, you’re going have to own up for your own sake. If you’ve read this far, I know you care about building a solid, deep and rewarding relationship. So don’t let a lie stand in the way of that. Don’t harm your own self-worth by continuing to lie. Be bold and courageous – tell the truth.

My advice for a healthy online relationship

I used to write down the following sentence for my clients and asked them what it meant:

“Where were you last night?”

What does it mean to you? Attempt putting the emphasis on different words. Have you noticed that it has at least Five different meanings? ,

You have every chance of building a truly strong and rewarding online relationship – when there’s a realistic expectation of being able to be together in person. Many of my clients had met online. These days it’s a normal way of beginning a relationship, despite the inherent difficulties.

Here are some tips to help you make it work:

Ten Dating tips to embark and maintain a healthy online relationship

  1. Write clearly ,making sure that your message can’t be misinterpreted (see box above)
  2. Make good use of emoticons, but don’t overdo it. If you embark off by using three hearts your fucking partner may not be ready and you may misinterpret their one heart.
  3. Don’t fret instantly ,when your playmate doesn’t get back to you. You both need to ‘have a life’ outside of your relationship!

Finally…

All relationships – online or otherwise – have their ups and downs. There can be problems galore, but there can also be an abundance of happiness and love. If you’re having problems with your cyber playmate, there’s just as much chance you can fix the issues as with an in-person partner… if you determine that fixing is the right way forward.

If it’s time for the relationship to end, my online relationship advice is near enough the same as for any other breakup.

If you’re not sure of the best way forward, don’t be afraid to reach out for help – either to a friend, or a professional (see the blue box further down for instant access to a qualified, online counsellor). Online relationships are just as valid as those in real life. Whatever you determine to do, stay safe, and make sure you’re providing yourself every chance to meet all of your essential emotional needs.

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