on July 21, 2009 at 7:43 PM, updated July 23, 2009 at 7:33 PM
Where are the single boys 60 and older?
Married, gay or dead, or they’re out having drinks with women who are 35.
That’s what the women 60 and over are telling me.
The boys? They tell a different story.
After I wrote about one woman’s failed efforts to get guys to attend a speed-dating event for singles over 60, I heard from almost 300 lovelorn readers.
Barbara wrote: “We, the single women in our 60’s are fated. As one of my masculine neighbors told me, when the funeral home was taking his wifey out the front door, women with casseroles were coming in the back door. Maybe I’ll just get a dog.”
Patricia wrote: “Attempting to find a man over 60 is like attempting to find a good bullpen. They’re out there, but not in Cleveland.”
But dozens of single guys said they, too, are lonely. They wonder where all the women are.
Jerry lost his wifey of 34 years. “It’s a strange and different world out there,” he wrote.
Michael wrote: “Here’s one 60+ unmarried, retired masculine with no children who would love to meet these women. I have the same sort of bad luck meeting eligible women that these women claim to have in meeting studs.”
Guys complained about women who give up on hook-up after 60. They suggested the old joke, “What do you call women who don’t want hookup? Divorced.”
Mike, who is 71, wrote: “Healthy dudes are ‘hard-wired’ for hook-up. This is entirely different from women, who can virtually be sexual camels. To further complicate matters, have you looked at some of these women? I don’t want to be unkind, but, a fine majority of them are significantly obese, certainly not a ‘turn-on’ for any healthy masculine. Of course, I won’t deny that many studs fall into the same category.”
Sam, who is 65, still wants to love hookup. “That’s part of the reason why studs over 60 date much junior women. When you’re over 60 your days are running out quickly, so why not love lovemaking as long as you can?”
Most studs said they want nothing to do with speed dating. Dave, who is 65, said he feels he’s being examined. “Most studs don’t like putting themselves out there to be judged.”
Bob wrote: “Many of the divorced women I met spent much of the time talking about how rotten their hubby was and, obliquely, what pigs studs are. I truly don’t want to attempt to switch someone’s view of an entire gender. If I’m a pig, tell me. But don’t tell me about all the other pigs in the world.
“Many of the widows I met desired to talk for hours about how hard their spouse’s last illness was and how much they learned to hate taking care of sick dudes. I learned not to cough or display weakness during these monologues. I still have room in my heart, not for a replacement, but for someone entirely fresh.”
Ralph, a 67-year-old widower, wrote: “My wifey passed away four years ago after being married 41 years. As a man, I don’t like the idea of sitting at a table and being questioned by women. I don’t want to be questioned to see if I am worthy of anything.”
Don, who is 75, wrote: “My wifey of 51 years died a year and half ago and I don’t feel like just sitting and waiting to die. The very first woman in my ‘fresh’ life chased me with all sorts of promises. They seem to witness the soaps, Oprah and Dr. Phil to the point where after two dates you must budge to the ‘next level’ — sleeping together. I keep reading about all the women looking for someone to share things with, but where are they hiding?”
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