By: Tiffany Langford
ahh, love. It is something a lot of us are searching for in many different forms. But we’re not just talking about any kind of love, we’re talking about the bone shattering heart fluttering, corny kind that Elvis Presley talks about in Love Me Tender.
Whether you are nodding your head in agreement or rolling your eyes at the very idea of it, it just kinda seems to be in our nature to love. It is hard to deny that at some point you may have imagined yourself living life, with your soulmate.
What is a soulmate?
A soulmate is your other half, speaking in a spiritual sense. You soulmate is the person God has for you that will endure both the greatest joy and most heartbreaking defeats of life with you. They will love you, test you, challenge you, and make you feel emotions you’ve never felt with any other person on this planet.
Your soulmate is your helpmate.
Your soulmate is a completion of yourself, the other piece to your puzzle. They fill a part in your heart that no other human being on this earth could fill, and maybe I am a hopeless romantic (okay, obviously I am) but THIS is the only kind of love I believe is worth settling for. THIS is the kind of love worth waiting for. THIS is the kind of life I truly believe God has in store for those who will choose to set aside their hearts for the one that is meant to love them.
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So, here are 10 things I believe you experience when you find the person God has set aside for you.
- They’ve seen both the best and worst of you and still choose you. They’ve seen the ugly parts of you. They’ve seen you at your worst, burdened with fear and insecurities yet they choose to love you through it. They’re staying, regardless if you are convinced they will someday leave you because you seen your mother or father go through that same thing. They stay and they LOVE. They are there during the rainbow and the storm.
- Thick and thin, the waves of life only push you both together instead of tearing you apart. You’ve made it up in your mind that you are sticking together til’ the end. You’ve been to hell and back, but even the devil himself can’t tear apart what God has ordained. You make a conscious effort to love each other daily, and everything that threatens your love or tries to come in between just causes you to cling to God and each other that much more. THAT, my friends, is the very definition of true love.
- You see a part of yourself in them.When you look into their eyes, it’s different than when you look into anyone else’s eyes. You see a part of you in them, it is almost like their heart completes yours. (Genesis 2:24) You can communicate with just one glance. You know and can feel their hurt even if they haven’t said a word. When God says, “the two shall become one” He meant it literally, and you can attest to that.
- You can’t imagine what your life was like before you met them. Imagine carrying around half of your heart in your hands. You search all over the world, looking for the other half then you find the other half in their hands. You’ve found your long lost best friend, even though you’ve never met before. There is an intense spiritual connection and you couldn’t imagine your life without that special person. And if you had it to do all over again, you would still choose them.
- They’ve changed you for the better, not for the worst. When you look at yourself compared to before you’ve met that special person, do you feel stronger or weaker? Do you feel more confident or more insecure? The person God has for you will leave a mark on your life that will cause you to be a better person because you’ve met them.
- Time has made you fall more in love, not out of love. I used to live in so much fear because my entire life all I had ever heard was that nothing lasts forever. What is the point of falling head over heels in love if you are only going to end up broken? From my personal experience, I love the man I married five years ago much more today than I did on our wedding day, and that is saying a lot. Love isn’t something that changes with the seasons, it stays consistent. Even when you fight, even when you get on each other’s nerves, you still love your significant other regardless.
- You’ve experienced some sort of premonition or gut feeling before meeting them. You can call me crazy, but when I was a little girl I dreamed of meeting the love of my life in this particular neighborhood of town. Many years later, after my dream was long forgotten, my mother, brother, and I moved to that very neighborhood, which just happened to be where I began dating the man who is now my husband. Coincidence? Maybe. But my husband, Kevin, has also had a few crazy things happen. We will save that for a later blog post. 🙂
- You know that you know that you know you’ve found the one. Just like we talked about in number 7, what you feel with this person is beyond what you have felt or ever could feel with anyone else. The feeling doesn’t change, it only evolves as time goes on. It does not lessen, it grows. When you lay your head down at night and are left with only your thoughts and God, there you will find your answer. Peace or theabsencethereof is a greatindicator of whether or not you are in God’s will. God will show you, trust me. (AND the feeling is mutual)
- They become your peace, not your calamity. In this crazy messed up world, I know that I can cry my eyes out and my husband will hold me and be there for me. God is ultimately my rock, but I truly feel like God gave me Kevin at the right moment for more than one reason. God knew that I needed a friend. God knew that my husband would play a major role in my healing process. God knew he would be my earthly companion who would bring me love, joy, and peace. For that I am so thankful.
- Even if you have previously crossed paths, you meet each other at just the right time. God brings the right person into your life when you are ready, not when you are lonely. There is a chance you could have crossed paths before, but your spiritual eyes won’t be open to that person until the time is right. And when the time is right you will know. Finding your soulmate shouldn’t be a part of a 5 or 10 year plan for you. You should allow yourself to be open to the idea of love when you are ready, its not something you place on a schedule.
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FAQs
How do you know if you found the one God has for you? ›
Having a strong sense of peace is an indicator that you are in line with God's will for your life. If you both have a strong peace or reassurance that you are supposed to be together, this could be the Holy Spirit confirming that he's the one God has for you.
How do you know if God has sent you your soulmate? ›A clear sign that God has sent someone your way is that they respect your wishes and desires. They don't impose their wants unto you and they ask about what you want rather than always desiring things to be done their way.
What are the signs of a true soulmate? ›- 9 Exciting Signs That You Have Found Your True Soulmate. ...
- They make you feel complete and whole. ...
- They support your dreams and ambitions. ...
- They bring out the best in you. ...
- You have a deep connection with them. ...
- Their presence fills your heart with joy. ...
- You agree about the important things. ...
- You just know it.
- Believe that the God who saved you hears your cries (Micah 7:7). ...
- Watch with expectancy, but be prepared for unexpected answers (Psalm 5:3). ...
- Put your hope in his Word (Psalm 130:5-6). ...
- Trust in the Lord, not in your own understanding (Proverbs 3:5-6).
- #1 He's on time.
- #2 You have common ground.
- #3 He listens as well as talking.
- #4 You're on the same page with money.
- #5 He's respectful.
- #6 You have shared life goals.
- #7 You communicate well.
- #8 There's a sense of equality.
- He is dedicated to his personal growth—while also supporting yours. ...
- He feels totally comfortable as your plus-one in all situations. ...
- You survived a long-distance relationship. ...
- You feel comfortable planning things six months—or a year—into the future. ...
- He cares about your friends.
If you have been feeling a sense of excitement and anticipation lately, it is one of the best ways to know that your soulmate is about to enter your life. These are the strong feelings you get when something big and wonderful is about to happen.
How do you know if you found the right person? ›The right person for you will be someone you know you want and need in your life, that complements your personality and expectations, and adds to your life in ways that you most value. If you truly know yourself and your own needs, you also likely know what kind of person you most want.
Is your life partner decided by God? ›God doesn't coerce us into marrying someone we don't want to marry. Instead, His plan may involve guiding us toward our life partners through a series of specific events, circumstances, and people. It's also important to remember that God can redeem any situation, even an imperfect or challenging marriage.
What happens when soulmate meets? ›A few of the most positive signs of meeting your soulmate include a feeling of an intense connection with the other person, a feeling of being at peace, a feeling of being comfortable and calm, and having a deep sense of understanding despite the fights or disagreements.
What happens when your soulmate touches you? ›
What would happen if my soulmate touched me? You may experience a sense of warmth, peace, and comfort. It may be intense, and you may feel a connection that goes beyond physical touch.
How do you know someone loves you? ›A loving partner may offer guidance and advice when asked, but they won't try to control your choices or behavior. They also won't withhold affection or criticize you until you agree with them. Generally speaking, you'll feel comfortable when agreeing to disagree.
What not to do when waiting on God? ›- Don't take matters into your own hands. Raise your hand if you often take matters into your own hands. ...
- Don't doubt what God can do. ...
- Don't put your trust in people over God. ...
- Let God be God. ...
- Trust that God can do what He says He can do. ...
- Be brave to come close to Jesus. ...
- Genesis 21:1-7 (ESV)
“And the Lord, He is the One who goes before you. He will be with you, He will not leave you nor forsake you; do not fear nor be dismayed” (Deuteronomy 31:8).
What to do while waiting on God for a husband? ›- Work on your relationship with God. ...
- Work on your relationship with yourself. ...
- Work on your relationship with others—NOT just your date's! ...
- Build a life you love on your own. ...
- Prepare some practical things for your future marriage. ...
- Explore your interests.
- Ask others to let you know. Sometimes we don't see in ourselves what others can see in us. ...
- Look for gifts in adversity. ...
- Pray for the help to recognize your gifts. ...
- Don't be afraid to branch out. ...
- Search the word of God. ...
- Look outside yourself. ...
- Think about people you look up to. ...
- Reflect on your family.
“When you've found The One, the relationship just flows. Things are fairly easy,” says the admirably optimistic Jeannie Assimos, Chief of Advice at online dating site eHarmony. “You understand each other's viewpoints and perceptions, and either accept them or feel the same way.
What does God say about finding the one? ›Song of Solomon 3:4: …I have found the one whom my soul loves… Proverbs 31:10: Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. Mark 10:9: Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.
How do you know if you have a heart for God? ›Joyful sacrifice, relentless submission, godly sorrow, and soul-ravishing satisfaction—these are the marks of a heart captivated by the glory and beauty of God. JOE BARNARD is the author of The Way Forward: a Road-map of Spiritual Growth for Men in the 21st Century (Christian Focus Publications).